Confidence is rooted in our perception of ourselves and our ability to do something. Confidence is a feeling, it’s a state of mind. It’s a perception that you lack nothing. That you are equipped with everything you need, both now and for the future.
We all suffer from lack of confidence at some points in our lives and here are just a few examples:
- Sporting performance
- Sexual performance
- Public speaking
- Goal setting
In fact, we can lack confidence in ANY area of of life. Many factors affect the development of confidence. Parents’ attitudes are crucial to children’s feelings about themselves, particularly in children’s early years. When parents provide acceptance, children receive a solid foundation for good feelings about themselves. If one or both parents are excessively critical or demanding, or if they are overprotective and discourage moves toward independence, children may come to believe they are incapable, inadequate, or inferior. However, if parents encourage children’s moves toward self-reliance and accept and love their children when they make mistakes, children will learn to accept themselves and will be on their way to developing self-confidence.
Life’s knocks can also create a lack of confidence – Losing a job, being alone and not getting that promotion at work you went for and many more can start to make you question your abilities.
Surprisingly, lack of confidence is not necessarily related to lack of ability. Instead, it is often the result of focusing too much on the unrealistic expectations or standards of others, especially parents and society. Friends’ influences can be as powerful or more powerful than those of parents and society in shaping feelings about one’s self.
Whatever your reason is for lacking confidence, good news, I can help! We can explore your subconscious patterns and behaviour and adjust where needed to fire you back up to believing that you can do anything you set your mind to!